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- The Day I Hit My Breaking Point
Exactly one year ago today I had a breakdown in the middle of a crowded Starbucks. I was working on my dissertation. I hated it. I hated it for a long time, but on that day something in me just broke. I couldn’t do it anymore.
- Why You Should Find the Guts to be Vulnerable at Work
People think that if you don’t put yourself out there you can’t get hurt. Wrong. You’re hurting yourself every time you refuse to go after what you want. Whether it’s asking for a raise, requesting help, making amends with a colleague, admitting you don’t understand, or going for the promotion, good things can happen when you take down your walls.
- How to Keep Your Personal Brand True to You
If you’re a solopreneur (or an aspiring one), you know that you are your business, which also means that you are your brand. Here’s how to build an authentic personal brand that feels good…
- I got dissed and got over it…eventually.
I was recently dissed by a prospective client. It stirred up all of the approval-seeking crap I have worked so hard to try and get a goddamn handle on. A dis is exactly what I was (and am) afraid of. It’s what we’re all afraid of: What if I show people who I really am and they don’t like me?
- What does modern masculinity look like?
Men still hear archaic messages about what it means to be male: Real men provide. Real men are strong at all costs. Work comes first. Real men are stoic and unemotional. Real men are rescuers. On that last note, I believe the Disney prince archetype is potentially even more damaging than the princess one.
- Take Back Your Crayons: Advice for Creative Entrepreneurs
What do crayons, money, square pegs, and Twitter followers have in common? According to Marc Ecko, they all have something to teach us about creative entrepreneurship. Read on to find out why you should stop counting your Twitter followers, get a box of crayons, and make something.
- Let Go. Ride Your Wave.
Overweight and out of shape, I have told myself that surfing is the type of adventure that is simply not for me. I’m the leader of the pack in most other areas of my life, but when it comes to outdoor adventures I tend to sit on the sidelines, despite a deep yearning to join in. I decided it’s time to change all that. I was going to California and, dammit, I was going to learn how to surf.
- Why I Quit My PhD to Become a Stripper
Three months ago I quit my PhD to become a stripper. Of course, I was afraid of what people would think, but my old life wasn’t working for me, and so I decided to change it. Drastically.
- Behind the Scenes at Careergasm: The Journey
This week, the founder of TOinitiatve asked me about the development of Careergasm and my own journey as an entrepreneur. Our conversation made me realize how much I love my job. Read on to learn about the book that changed my life, my best advice for pursuing a dream, and how I made the switch from soul sucking work to a career I love.
- 6 Tips for a Red Carpet Career
The Oscars is where we celebrate the best of the best in film – the spine-tingling performances, the cream of the crop. You want the best of the best for your career too, and so why not look to the Oscars for a little inspiration. Here are six tips to help you create a career that’s an Oscar worthy show-stopping success…
- Why Dress for the Job and Life You Want? It Works.
If you’ve ever watched an episode of What Not to Wear (if you’re like me you’ve watched many), you can recall fashion expert Stacey London telling women to “dress for the job you want, not the job you have”. You’re not likely to make your way to the corner office if you come in every day looking like the janitor. Interestingly, this concept works for your life too. I learned this from personal experience a few years ago when I found myself in a deep dark rut mid-divorce.
- 5 Tips for Making Money as an Artist Entrepreneur
There’s a ton of information out there for anyone looking to create a traditional scalable business. And there’s no shortage of incubators for tech startups in search of money and mentorship. But what about artists who are going solo and getting paid for their art? They’re entrepreneurs, too. How does one go from creating art to getting paid for it? I asked Marc Johns, whose drawings have been described as “badass whimsy” about his career as an artist. Based on our discussion, here are five tips for anyone looking to make a go of it as an artist entrepreneur…
- Have a breakdown. Repeat if necessary.
Place holds a great deal of memory. And the body holds a great deal of residual pain. I had no idea just how much until it overtook me. The fact that my marriage ended amicably does not make its ending any less painful, and so I found myself having a very messy meltdown in a very public place.
- Bright Insight from Audacious Entrepreneurs
If you’re an aspiring entrepreneur you MUST check out The Suitcase Entrepreneur for easy and affordable bizhacks, from tech tips to marketing tools. Since starting my business, Sisson’s book and blog have helped move me forward in countless ways. And if you’re a west coaster looking for an empowered tribe, check out SOCIALight, which takes its crew of audacious pioneers on the road to Vancouver in mid-February.
- 4 Things Every New Entrepreneur Should Splurge On
There are investments you need to make as a start-up – like design and marketing, for example – that seem like a non-negotiable no-brainer. But there are other, perhaps less obvious, investments that are important to the long-term success of your business. You need to invest in yourself. Your professional development. Your personal growth. Here are four personal/professional development opportunities that every new entrepreneur – even the penny-pinchers – should splurge on.
- Make resolutions on your own terms
For writers, there’s something about a blank page. Clean and unblemished, it can inspire or it can invoke paralysis. It’s the same thing with a new year. Full of still unformed possibilities, a new year can be both exciting and intimidating when you’re standing on its doorstep.
- 8 Books for New Leaders
If you have a new leader on your Christmas list, consider giving them a book that will help them perform their new leadership duties without dropping the ball.
- How to Beat Millennial Career Paralysis
Mary, Enid and Marcus are down-to-earth, accomplished, hard-working, and highly capable people. But each of them struggles with what I call “career paralysis” – the inability to make any career decision for the fear of making the wrong career decision. Career paralysis is often the result of an overwhelming number of possibilities, and it is a phenomenon all too familiar to millennials in their twenties.
- The Inside Scoop From 3 Fierce Female Entrepreneurs
In the course of my work as a career and entrepreneur coach, I have crossed paths with some fierce female entrepreneurs. Here, three of them – a change agent, an artist, and a healer – offer the inside scoop on what it’s really like to start your own business.
- I Gave Up on Myself at 30
I had a personal crisis the week before I turned 30.
I’m happy with who I am, and with the relationships I have with my family and friends, but I’ve yet to achieve the North American definition of professional success. I’m 30 years old and I live with my parents. Not because I want to (they’re great, don’t get me wrong), but because I have to. Despite being an honour roll student, a university graduate, and being told over and over that I would have wild employment success, I do not.
- 7 Facebook Mental Health Profiles: What’s Yours?
Facebook is not only a vortex of time wasting, but a recent study says that it may also undermine your well-being. Your own Facebook activity may offer clues about your mental health. Are you a dumper? A chronic comparer? A spinner? Read on to see which Facebook profile you fit.
- Too Ambitious for Your Own Good? 3 Tips for Pacing Yourself
I am what one might affectionately call a “keener”, or on a bad day a “frazzled and perfectionistic over-achiever”. I’m working on it. This tendency is fairly pervasive in all areas of my life, from personal to professional. However, high up in the Rocky Mountains, away from my day-to-day work, I was recently reminded of the value of pacing myself.
- Using Sex as Currency
I was recently dismayed by a piece of advice given from one businesswoman to another. At marieforleo.com, an entrepreneur sought advice on how to get mental and emotional support from her husband as she worked to grow her new business. In short, she was told the solution was to verbally appreciate her husband more, to “tell him he’s your hero”, and to orally appreciate her husband more…if you know what I mean.
- On the Verge of a Breakdown? Do this.
If you’ve ever found yourself hanging by a very fine thread, you know what it’s like to feel a breakdown coming on. It’s like watching a tidal wave approach; you can see it coming, but it hasn’t yet hit the shore.
I speak from experience. I have had two breakdowns – one after the end of my marriage, and a second one of the career/identity variety. Based on my experience from the first, I handled the second one differently.
- You Can Change Your Mind
On one of my last vacation days this summer, I set out to do a 24-kilometer hike. It would ensure that I met my goal of hiking a certain distance by the end of my Rocky Mountain travels. I approached the trailhead with a heavy pack and a hopeful heart. Ten minutes into my hike, something wonderful happened! I came across a family of Rocky Mountain Bighorn Sheep, about seven or eight of them. Right. In. My. Path.
- How NOT to Take Criticism
Last night, in the company of 5000 other women, I heard Hillary Clinton offer advice I took to heart. She said, “Take criticism seriously, but not personally”. For such a simple sentiment, it struck me as profound. In fact, it’s not too much of a stretch to say that those six words knocked our collective socks off. The room grew rather still. I could tell that there were other recovering perfectionists, like myself, in the room for whom that struck home.
- The 5 WHYs of Career Decision-Making
In our work lives, we are constantly asking questions, evaluating our options, and making decisions. This swirl of considerations can be overwhelming at times, and with so many questions to ask it can be hard to know which is more important. The most important career question you’ll ever ask is only three letters long, but packs one heck of a punch. The question is…why? It’s such an important question; I recommend you ask it five times over any time you’re making any major decision at work or in life.
- Overcome Complacency and Habitual Living
I got thinking about the power of the status quo when I recently watched the documentary I’m Fine, Thanks. A team of first-time filmmakers independently produced the doc with crowd-sourced funding from Kickstarter. Their message to shake free of complacency was so widely shared that more than 4,000 people signed on to financially back the film project, myself included.
- The Word of the Day is IMPOSTER
I’m super insecure about my vocabulary. In fact, I submit my use of the word super instead of a more elegant word as evidence of my less-than-sophisticated vocab. I’m especially insecure about this particular shortcoming because I have a journalism degree, two graduate degrees, and I’m a writer. If anyone should have a strong command of the English language I feel it should be me. I once had to look up the definition of the word fatuous while reading an article. It means, and I quote, “dense, dull, dim-witted”. I took my having to look up its definition as a personal jab, further reinforcing the shame I felt for my inadequacy.
- Working Women and the Good Life
Women, Work & the Art of Savoir Faire is an unconventional book blending business, fashion, and entertaining advice, written by Mireille Guiliano – author of bestseller French Women Don’t Get Fat. You’ll find this book in the business section, but fashion and entertainment add flavour and are folded in generously. While every business book offers it’s own recipe for success, Guiliano takes this quite literally. The book includes an appendix of recipes for entertaining. I haven’t decided whether I’d like to embrace this as delightfully quirky, or dismiss it as flaky. Though perhaps ‘flaky’ isn’t the right word, as there isn’t a single pastry recipe in the lot.
- Playlists for Change
Whether you’re thrilled about a promotion, anxious about move abroad, or devastated over a break-up, music makes it better. And how exactly can the right music make something like dealing with a break-up better? In the same way that the right music makes a good party better – by matching the mood you’re in and helping you to experience your emotions more deeply. A collection of sad songs is like a kind hug from a friend when you’re down-and-out – equal parts comfort and permission to break down.
- Hissyfit in Check: What’s the REAL Problem?
I was reading a memoir about one of the lost boys from the civil war genocide in Sudan. It’s a heavy book at times, so I took a Facebook break. I saw that that a girl from high school ‘liked’ my status update saying I lost my iPhone. How rude! In a self-important rage, I freaked out and privately messaged two other friends to hot-headedly vent about it. This is beyond embarrassing to admit. In case you’re not immediately spotting the problem here, let me reiterate the situation for you: I was throwing a hissyfit over a Facebook ‘like’ while simultaneously reading about the real life struggle of a young boy literally running for his life during a horrific genocide. To say that I lacked perspective is a massive understatement.
- Can Sex and the City Reruns Help You Find Happiness at Work?
Sometimes in life, and especially my professional life, I make things more complicated than they need to be. I often think that concepts have to be slippery and sophisticated in order to be of value. This is, surely, one of the curses of being entrenched in academia. However, something that helps me to embrace seemingly obscure business concepts is to bring them down to ground level – like waaay down – where real people take off their suit jackets, and curl up on the couch with a Lean Cuisine and re-runs of Sex and the City.